Listography Mania

Two weeks ago, I saw this book in Powerbooks and I promised myself that I will buy a copy this coming pay day. But for the mean time, I decided to write my lists here.

friends (professions of my friends)

• Programmer (coriel and arric – they’ve been together for what, 10 years?)
• Leadership Trainer (carl – part-time make up artist extraordinaire)
• Learning Strategy Specialist (thanks J!)
• Research Associate (anton – my shock absorber)
• Reports Analyst (joy – sidekick!)
• Organizational Development Specialist (murky – big sister at work)
• Sr. Client Services Manager (saraah)
• IT Analyst (val)
• Pre-school teacher (joane)
• Operations Manager (taj)
• Sales Coach (diane)
• Team Leader (JJ, Kit)

autobio (favorite stories i tell about my life)

• How I spent my 3 years in the province
• Bad high school memories
• Stories about boys who made me cry
• Memorable injuries like falling in a fish pond, getting bitten by a dog, etc.
• Past, unrequited love
• My job (eew, but strangely I talk about this all the time)
• Music that brings back memories
• Quitting a sorority
• Addiction to gadgets and reasons why there’s no cure for it
• Winning the heart of a boy I really, really like

I am going to write about my favorite symbols next. Things to do this weekend: hang out with Jez, buy the Listography journal (then I’d get the Music Listography next then Love Listography). In other random news, I’m returning to Laiya this weekend. Looking forward to infinity pool tiemz. <3

So You Were Unfollowed, Relax!

People unfollow people on Twitter all the time.  And I totally agree that people shouldn’t take it personally.  People are on Twitter for so many different reasons.  Personally, I am on Twitter to get more exposure for my blog and to possibly meet new clients (though I still really haven’t figured out how).  Anyway, from time to time, I unfollow and get unfollowed and I thought it’s fine.  But there’s always the possibility for others to take it personally.

So I Googled my way in finding out what others think about being unfollowed and here’s what I found:

Get over it!  

my point is this – Twitter is opt in.  As a user you blurt out whatever you think is interesting.  As a consumer, you decide who you want to listen to by “following” them.  And here’s the fun part, if you don’t like it you can stop listening to them by doing the unthinkable: unfollow them… Online relationships are different (good ones are ones that you integrate and blend in with your offline “IRL” relationships though – but that’s a whole different blog post). So we all need to get used to it… You *can’t* be offended if someone unfollows you. You don’t really know how that person is using Twitter. They might only be looking for good recipes or something. And if you’re not talking about your favorite butterscotch chip maple brownie recipe then dammit, they *should* stop following you… So, remember, it’s not about you. Twitter works because it’s all about who you follow. It’s a self managing system. And to be a good Twittizen you should ease up and not freak out when people unfollow you. In fact, why don’t you go take a look at your network right now and see if you’re getting out of it what you want. You’re time is valuable!

Don’t take it personally.

[Being unfollowed] is no real loss to you!  So, to put a twist on the words of George Costanza, “It’s not you, it’s them. It’s really, REALLY them!”

Why do you care?

accept that you’re going to be followed by the most relevant people with the nearest interests and that this group will always be fairly liquid.  Enjoy them while they hang around and don’t sweat it when they move on.

Now, what to do?

1. Acknowledge the Persons Decision and Ask for Constructive Feedback
2. Assess the Feedback
3. Don’t Take it Personally
4. Release Them Graciously
5. Don’t Buy Into Personal Attack
6. Keep Perspective

These are really great tips and I couldn’t agree more.  I personally think that it’s normal and not offensive to unfollow people on Twitter.  They have their own reasons why they click the unfollow button.  What I’m more interested to know is, what exactly is the reason why people feel offended if they were unfollowed?  I just want to understand where they’re coming from. That’s all.  I want to know your thoughts, too.  Feel free to comment.